Today I celebrate 15 years of marriage to my knight in shining armor!
We married fairly young, and we both brought a good dose of pride into our new relationship. I remember someone telling us during that first year to enjoy the honeymoon, because around year 7 is when it all falls apart. (I have a few words for that person if I could just remember who it was.) We decided a couple of years into our marriage to try & live out Ephesians 5. The only downside to this is that no one believes us when we tell them that we have no problems in our marriage!!
These are some little tidbits I’ve gleaned in 15 years:
~It took me a long time to love my Savior more than I love my husband.
~Being equally yoked means more than just marrying a Christian. It means marrying someone who has the same vision/dreams/desires for the future. You are in for a rocky road if one of you wants a life of ministry and the other just wants to warm a pew.
~You should always marry your best friend.
~I’ve learned to hold my tongue when I’m angry. Many, many times God has shown me that my anger stemmed from my own selfishness or jealousy. The few times my anger was justified, I was able to discuss things calmly & lovingly because I cooled off first.
~Jason & I have almost nothing in common: God, Family, Mexican food & the Dallas Cowboys – that’s about it. We are living proof that opposites attract.
~Submission has little to do with action and everything to do with heart and attitude.
(Meaning you can be outwardly submissive to your husband, doing everything he requests & following his lead – BUT if your heart, body language & words don’t match your actions, it is empty & meaningless.)
~A man who knew nothing of babies before he held his own can instantly become a Super Daddy.
~I’m told that my husband is the only one among our crowd who doesn’t have to get a “Yard Pass” to go play with his friends. LOL *yard pass = permission from wife, & is usually accompanied by a long To Do list to be completed upon returning home
Jason, I’m so thankful that God gave me to you! I pray that we have many, many, many more anniversaries – it will take me that long to get my act together ;o) I love you!!!
p.s. For those of you who have raised an eyebrow at my ‘Rangers are Sexy’ blinkie- I do not have a crush on Viggo Mortensen, I am married to Aragorn. Jason has spent his adult life fighting for Truth and Righteousness. He is a bold, caring leader with a thirst for adventure. Funny thing is he wants to be more like Frodo – but who wants to be married to Frodo :o)
You can read my post on How I became Mrs. Jason
If you’ve read this far without dozing off, head on over to Rocks In My Dryer for some great tips!
Congratulations on your anniversary. What a sweet list. Do you think “best friends” actually happens prior to marriage or after? That’s always my curiosity when the “marry your best friend” advice is given.
I’m glad I stumbled on your blog today. God bless!
Julia~
I think Best Friend should happen before marriage.
Happy Anniversary! Wonderful sweet thoughts!
Happy Anniversary! I remember that day. What a beautiful day.
Lovely thoughts! May you have a wonderful day today and many more in the future.
I can’t believe it has been 15 YEARS!
You are so right about everything!
Happy Anniversary! My husband and I have been married for five years. We have been through some very tough times together, and I would not have wanted anyone else to be with me through them. Thank you for your lessons learned! I am still working on many of them. Most important and probably the hardest for me is the first tip.
Thanks for sharing!
Happy Anniversary!! My hubby and I had God and the Dallas Cowboys in common, makes for a great bond. 😉
“The only downside to this is that no one believes us when we tell them that we have no problems in our marriage!!”
Isn’t that amazing? It makes me sad sometimes what people believe is impossible.
Thank you for this list. I’m still thinking about your first tidbit. *Totally* with you on the Best Friends bit and laughing at your opposites bit.
Jay and I have observed that we are 2/3 alike (we both have 3-letter names): 1/3 exactly alike (Y-factor), 1/3 parallel (A-factor), and 1/3 totally different (JM-factor). We enjoy it so much, and love to celebrate out same-ness the way some celebrate their uniqueness.
I think it’s part of what makes our marriage unique.
Happy Anniversary! I’m always glad to hear about other couple messing with the expected in marriage.
Blessings on your Day!
Viggo’s not bad either though 😉 *giggles*
I totally agree with ALL these points AND we should start a “We don’t do Yard Passes” club 😉 Kris gets free reign as well…although typically he WILL do a variety of things for me to make it easier on me while he’s gone 😉
Great List! I, too have a marriage like you describe and it is amazing to people who see us in action. We have been married 28 years, and it just keeps getting better and better!
TM
Amy,
This is great! You made me smile today and think of all the good things about being married to your best friend! Wow! You guys sure have some “staying power”! :o)
Happy Anniversary!
Love and Prayers,
Julie
I have updated my email- one too many “l’s” in there. I look forward to hearing from you!
Happy Anniversary!
Come by my blog, I have another award for you! :o)
Julie
AMY AND JASON…Happy Anniversary!!!
Amy, I do believe you and AMEN AMEN AMEN to all that you wrote. I believe in all of that myself. I am so grateful to have married my best friend and your right opposites do work with the right heart and attitude. God does come first!!! I thank God for you and Jason!
Have a blessed day…(I am currently in Colorado on vacation with hubby as I write this on your blog =)
I did finally write something on my blog after weeks of being busy as a bee..=)
much love and blessings to your family,
shellie
Okay, I did go over and read “HOW I BECAME MRS. JASON.” Amy, I have a good memory about you and Jason. I was cutting Jason hair(one time) and I remember I was playing The Beach Boys in the background. The song that was playing was “Wouldn’t it be Nice if we were Older.” Jason commented on how great it would be if he could have married you right then and there and get y’alls LIFE together as husband and wife started. He said ” I can’t wait to be older”…little did I know he meant 2 years older which is not much older at all….ha ha!!! Amy, I knew it then that he loved you so much and it is obvious through your blog that he still does and so much more as well as you do back to him! You married after AIM….funny thought that was instilled in all the couples heads that were in AIM!!! Glad to have a memory about y’all. Some things just stick in my head!!! Tell Jason “hi” for me from “hale.” ha ha..maybe he will remember that..calling me “hale” all the time.
Happy Anniversary a few days late my friend!!!
That is a wonderful post and I can relate very much your marraige to ours. We don’t fight either. There is too much wonderful to experience together to take up precious time arguing!!! : )